End of Life Resources • Bayview Internal Medicine

The Basics: Coping with Grief and Loss

As a griever, you have rights no one should violate or take away from you. Living through grief is an important part of healing. The grieving path is different for each one of us, and your path is something no one has the right to impede upon. Your pathway through grief is what you need to experience to find your way through it and on to living a full life after the loss of someone you love.

Below is a list of your rights meantto empower you in your journey through the healing process. This list is intended to enable you to understand the importance of your right to grieve.

The Grieving Person’s Bill of Rights

You have the right to experience your own unique No one else will grieve the same way you do.
You have the right to talk about your Talking about your grief will help you heal. Seek out others who will allow you to talk as much as you want, as often as you want, about your grief.
You have the right to feel many Confusion, disorientation, fear, guilt and relief are just a few of the emotions you might feel as part of your journey of grief. Find listeners who will accept your feelings without conditions.
You have the right to be tolerant of your physical and emotional Your feelings of loss and sadness will probably leave you feeling fatigued. Respect what your body and mind are telling you. Get daily rest. Eat balanced meals.
You have the right to experience grief “attacks.” Sometimes, out of nowhere, a powerful surge of grief may overcome you. This can be frightening but it is normal and natural. Find someone who understands and will let you talk it
You have the right to make use of The funeral ritual does more than acknowledge the death of someone loved. It helps provide you with the support of caring people. More important, the funeral is a way for you to mourn.
You have the right to embrace your If faith is part of your life, express it in ways that seem appropriate to you. Allow yourself to be around people who understand and support your religious beliefs. If you feel angry at God, find someone to talk with who won’t be critical of yourfeelings of hurt and abandonment.
You have the right to search for You may find yourself asking “Why did he or she die? Why this way? Why now?” Some of your questions may have answers, but some may not.
You have the right to treasure your Memories are one of the best legacies that exist after the death of someone loved. You will always remember. Instead of ignoring your memories, find others with whom you can share them.
You have the right to move towards your grief and Reconciling your grief will not happen quickly. Remember, grief is a process, not an event. Be patient and tolerant with yourself.